Dear Miss Pearl,
My wife seems to be having a difficult time ever since our youngest child left for college. She is moody, cries a lot, and when I ask her what’s going on she doesn’t say anything. Why won’t she tell me what is wrong?
Your wife wants you to be in tune with her – she wants you to know without having to be told. The fact that you are having to ask her just upsets her more! She is not going to tell you because she expects you to know. While some people take it in stride, the “empty nest syndrome” is a real problem for some people (ummm, it was for me). Let’s assume that this is why your wife is feeling fragile. Talk to her and reassure her that her feelings are legitimate; convince her that you understand and want to help her. You also need to remind her that this is not the end of the story, it is simply a new chapter. This would be a great time for you to surprise her with something special – plan a date night, a spa gift card, jewelry, a weekend getaway, just some suggestions for you. Please know that there is no place in this scenario for a new appliance!
Dear Miss Pearl,
The company I work for has a very nice room that many of us use to take our lunch break. There is a guy who always talks on speakerphone and it is so annoying to the rest of us. We’ve asked him to step outside to make his calls but he says the speaker allows him to eat while he is talking. Can you help?
OH NO, HE DOES NOT! This is beyond rude and should not be allowed in the break room. I personally think that speakerphones should not be allowed in any public space but many people don’t seem to share my opinion. I don’t understand why people think this is acceptable behavior – no one wants to be forced to listen to someone’s boring, mundane, stupid conversation! Now if the conversation was about something – or someone – interesting, well that’s a whole different ballgame (just kidding). Y’all need to take this up with management or Human Resources and see if they will intervene on your behalf. Better yet, how about the next time it happens y’all be prepared to make a ruckus so he has trouble hearing. If you don’t already own an air horn I suggest you go buy one… or two!
And Another Thing...
Remember the days after 9-11-2001 when, regardless of our differences, we all came together as a nation? Remember when the white supremacy group came to march in our precious town and we, as a community, let them know that hate was not welcome here? Why must it take an act of aggression for us to truly unite as a country, city, town, or community? Why are we allowing haters to become our voice? Is there no hope for a better world? Where is acceptance? Where is love? Asking for a friend.
“Miss Pearl,” aka Colleen Sprayberry, is one of Newnan's leading authorities on modern etiquette. She gladly lends her advice to everyone whether they want it or not, because, "After all, it's all about the children and setting a good example for them." Her videos are available on her Facebook page and YouTube channel. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org .