Dear Miss Pearl,
Our new associate pastor has a very large tattoo on his arm. I can't quite tell what it is, but there is no mistaking that it is a tattoo. What kind of message is this sending our young people?
First of all, most young people do not pay attention to "messages" we send them unless it is the dreaded stink eye.
Secondly, just because someone has a tattoo does not necessarily indicate that they are a bad person.
Your pastor made a choice that you don't agree with and guess what? This was his choice to make, not yours. He may have been in high school and under the influence of a certain young lady when he got it. He may have been in seminary and sober as a judge when he chose to get his tattoo.
For all you know his body art may be a scene of Moses parting the Red Sea. Would that make it more acceptable to you as opposed to a picture of his Mama? You might want to pay more attention to the sermons instead of the tattoo.
I seem to recall some verses about not passing judgment on others. You need to watch the movie "Frozen" and LET IT GO!
Dear Miss Pearl,
The last of our three children just graduated from high school and I am already dreading the day he leaves for college. I can't even begin to imagine how quiet the house will be and how much I will miss him. Most of my adult life has been dedicated to raising my children. Am I being over dramatic?
You are not being over-dramatic – you are being a mother. Don't look at this event as the end of the story because it certainly is not. Look at this as the beginning of a new chapter for you.
A chapter that has blank pages that YOU get to write. Sure, it may take a while to adjust to your new life, but don't dread it, get excited about it. I did great when Baby left for college.
Football season gave me the opportunity to see both him and Little. I fell apart when he went back after Christmas his freshman year and I was a hot mess – not a good thing, in case you are not familiar with the term.
You are going to be just fine when the time comes, so enjoy your summer with your son and don't fret over what to buy so that his dorm room is cute.
Lawd knows you will probably have to burn all of that stuff when he brings it home!
And Another Thing...
I miss Scott's Bookstore – especially during the summer. First grade through 12th, I could always count on Miss Earlene having the books on the boys' summer reading lists. She had the Cliff Notes too!
Miss Earlene would always engage the boys in conversation – not an easy task when they were teenagers – and she had such patience with them. (She was always setting a good example!). What I really miss, however, is going there to get something to read for myself. She and Bonnie knew what I liked to read – and what I avoided – and I could always tell by the look on their faces when they had the "best book" for me to read.
Sometimes I went to the book store just to visit.Imagine THAT. Miss Earlene always made you feel welcome, and I don't think I ever left without a smile on my face. One time I was there first thing in the morning to get a book that had come out that day.
Wouldn't you know that Dr. Jimmy got the first one because he called and asked her to hold a copy for him. I'm so grateful for the memories the boys and I – along with countless others – have of the years we had spending time in that jewel of a bookstore.
Most of all, however, I am grateful to know and love Miss Earlene.
Miss Pearl is one of Newnan's leading authorities on modern etiquette. She gladly lends her advice to everyone whether they want it or not, because, "After all, it's all about the children and setting a good example for them." Her videos are available on her Facebook page, and she can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org